You may hear this a lot from others when you get a low grade, have a poor condition, or gave away too much money; it is your own responsibility. Of course, this is true. You are the one that did not pass the exam, has not got good lungs, or lost too much money, no one else but you. All these things are your own responsibility. Sure, your parents can help you financially, but it is on you what you do with your money. The same goes with your body or your grades, you can have a fitness buddy or a homework tutor, in the end, it is all about what you are doing, these people only can help you with it.
Living with others All these examples were about responsibility for your results: your grades, your body, or your bank account. The thing is, you are responsible for much more than those results, which is completely fine. In the end, you are responsible for how you look at things. To make this clear to you I will give you an example. You are walking around in your city and there is a woman passing by. The woman looks at you and says: “Why are you wearing those shoes, do you know nothing about fashion?!”. It is now your responsibility to respond to this. Are you getting offended and saying something rude back to her? Are you feeling sad and doubting yourself if your style is not good enough? Are you going to put the woman's commentary into perspective and let it go? You can be responsible for your own emotions with the right mindset. You can get sad or angry after she said this to you, but why would you? It is her opinion; you cannot do anything about that. Sure, it is not the nicest thing to say to a person, but are you going to let that comment ruin your day? Take responsibility for your own life, do not let others do it for you.
Your life In the end, you are responsible for how you are living your life. Of course, you cannot control everything, but you can take responsibility for your thoughts and choices in your life. Do you have an exam this week that you did not learn yet, and now you are having a lot of stress? Take responsibility and start learning for your exam, also take responsibility that you may be started too late, but you are now viewing it with a positive mindset by thinking you are trying to make the best of it. Do you have a job that causes you to be grumpy in the mornings because you do not want to go to do your job? Take responsibility and change your negative view into a positive one, even if you are looking up to the things you still need to do at work.
Why would you keep working with those negative thoughts when you are not finished, and only when you finish it, you are happy? Why would you let your happiness be dependent on the time of the process you are in? You can be happy, even when you have a lot to do for work! It is all about how you take responsibility for the things you do; it is your responsibility if you are letting the amount of work take its part in your happiness or not. Why would you let that take its part in your happiness? Take responsibility by putting your ‘problems’ into perspective, how big and important are the problems you now have when you look at your whole life? You have so much time to live on this planet, do not waste your energy by overthinking your problems!
You
So now you have read this, what are going to do with it? You are maybe thinking “This is some helpful information, I can relate to a lot of things I have read”, which is great. The thing is, how are you going to take responsibility? Are you going to let this blog inform you about responsibility, and keep on living the same way living? That is not the purpose of this blog. Sure, it is nice to inform you about responsibility, but if that were my only reason, this blog would be a kind of newspaper for you; you get informed and live on. It is important for you that you are taking this information into practice. If you want to lose weight, you are not only going to read about good ways of losing weight, right? You will need to train, get a better diet, etc. Take my written information about responsibility into practice from now on. For every new situation, whether it is in your head or in real life, take your own responsibility for it. Do it your way, the way that you want, with a positive mindset. Living in that way can be so much more fun to you than it is right now! :)
